That day was significant for me, not because the choice to leave led directly to a completely different career enabling me to work less, earn more, improve my health and enjoy more fun, and meaningful connections in my life (although all of those things occurred). No, that day was significant for me because that was the day I connected the dots.
Trusting my instincts and honoring my values, I took a critical step forward toward getting myself well again, all by simply saying “No thank-you”.
- I said “No thank-you” to an opportunity I knew wasn’t right for me or my family.
- I said “No thank-you” to other people’s expectations.
- I said “No thank-you” to the notion that one “should take a promotion”.
- I said “No thank-you” to being defined by my job or employment status.
- I said “No thank-you” to continuing to put my health and well-being at risk for my job or frankly for whatever else might seem more important or urgent or necessary going forward.
- I said “No thank-you” not only to being sick of work but also to being sick from my work
I was ready to change...
I said “yes” to allowing myself space to learn something completely new and to trusting myself to figure it out.
I said yes to a life that honors my highest values.
Eventually, I would say yes to a new career that engages my highest strengths and core operating preferences, and which continues to fascinate me to this day. Because of what mattered most to me, I consciously said no that day, so I might say yes to a healthier, happier life and to a career more consistent with my calling.